I am not a tart.
I don’t even know where the line is that separates someone from being ‘experienced’ from someone being ‘a slut’.
In fact, I don’t even know what those two things mean.
They are just words I hear. Around.
Does the fact that I have only ever had one yes that’s right just one one-night stand make me promiscuous?
Or does the fact that I’ve had one one-night stand make me a slut?
I don’t think so – to either question.
The people (around) who talk about anyone who has had multiple sexual partners would, if I exposed the truth, call me promiscuous.
Alright, I may have had (since I became sexually active (when I was 17 years old) 23 sexual partners, but all of those (with that one exception) were proper relationships.
Relationships that lasted months and, in a couple of instances, years.
There’s a lad at work, in his very early 30s, who has had 40 (FORTY!) sexual partners, and a significant amount of those were ‘encountered’ at ‘lads weekends’ on Ibiza, and Majorca, etc.
So they weren’t proper relationships or anything.
So is he a tart?
Or a slut?
I just keep my numbers secret; nobody needs to know.
When I looked at my LinkedIn contacts earlier and thought ‘Done that one, and that one, and that one, and ooh yeah done that one properly and so would do that one again and again, and that one’, and (eventually) ‘Oh My God I have had sex with way too many people I have met through work!’, then maybe it is time to review my dating strategy?
Not that I’m dating at the moment anyway.
Because I’m living with someone.
So that’s it, right?